Alanya Kolberg told on her Facebook account an incident that her son went through one day while going out in the park, to play.
There, a group of boys approached her son and started asking him for the toys that the little one had with him. They all wanted to play with them and told Carson to share with them. What his mother did in this case immediately went viral on the internet.
Carson was taken out of the park by his mother. The boy had with him some toys that the boys wanted, including a transformer, a Minecraft figurine, and a truck. He was frightened when everyone came to him to pick them up and asked his mother what to do. Her answer was logical.
“MY CHILD IS NOT OBLIGED TO SHARE WITH YOURS. As we arrived at the park, Carson was greeted by at least 6 boys who started asking him to share his toys with them. He had a transformer, a Minecraft figurine, and a truck. My son was overwhelmed and started squeezing his toys around his chest as the boys lay down behind them. He looked at me.
I told him he could refuse them. Tell them no, that’s all, without explaining. Obviously, as he said no, the boys came to me too because he didn’t want to share the toys. I replied, “He is not obliged to share with you. He said no. If he wants to share it with you, he will. ” The parents next to me started looking at me badly.
But here’s the thing: if I, an adult, enter the park eating a sandwich, does that mean I have to share it with strangers in the park? Not! Would any well-mannered adult, a stranger, be invited to eat my sandwich and get upset if I refuse? Not again. So, while you look at me, thinking that my son and I are rude, whose manners are missing here?
Of the person who has to give his 3 toys to 6 boys or the 6 boys who ask to be given something that does not belong to them, given that their owner does not feel comfortable with this? The goal of a parent is to teach their child to function as an adult. While I know a few adults who never learned to share when they were little, I know too many who don’t know how to say NO to people, set boundaries, or take care of them properly.
I’m one of those adults. Anyway, Carson came with the toys to the park just to share them with a little girl he was meeting there. He didn’t want to share them with those greedy boys because he was happy to surprise them. Next time your child comes to you, upset because another child doesn’t want to share, remember that we don’t live in a world where you don’t have to give up everything you have just because someone has said that.
I’m not going to teach my child that because that’s how the world works! ”
The mother’s message was posted on a social network in April of this year and since it was published, the post has gathered thousands of likes and distributions.
What do you think of your mother’s explanation?
